#67: Polyamory content round-up
Revisiting lots of content about polyamory/ENM
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Note: Throughout January, I’m publishing content that’s focused on non-monogamy as I’m preparing for a talk called ‘Guiding Clients in Navigating Open and Polyamorous Relationships’ which is taking place online tonight, Wednesday 29 January at 19:00 GMT. Full info about the talk is in the second half of this mailout.
‘Z’ is a man with whom I had a beautiful, yet fraught love affair in 2024. ‘Z’ had already explained a little about what his sexual and romantic life looked like – he was in a civil partnership with a woman with whom he’d recently opened things up. But I was surprised when he said he lived in a big University town in the south of England. Turned out, though, that he was often in Manchester to visit family. Phew; the logistics didn’t seem impossible. We fell in love, but sadly, it didn’t work out.
I shared more verbatim material from the end of our conversation, at where ‘Z’ talks about the issues that come with wanting kids, but being in multiple relationships. Paywalled: To gain access to this post upgrade to paid.
Sponsored post by enmliving.com:
“ENM, at its core, is about fostering relationships that embrace honesty, communication, and mutual consent – while stepping outside the boundaries of traditional monogamy.
Let’s break it down, explore the key principles, and help you figure out if this approach to relationships aligns with your needs and values.”
‘H’ is a queer, polyamorous white British, woman (cis), who, at the time of interview in May 2021 was 37, and living in London with her husband and small son.
This e extract gives some insight into how she came to opening up her marriage.
I shared more verbatim material from the end of our conversation, where we chatted about what we think the pros and cons might be around raiding families as a collective rather than in a nuclear family. Paywalled: To gain access to this post upgrade to paid.
W’ is a woman with whom I’ve only shared a couple of experiences, but they were so connected and intense that we both speak of them in superlatives. We were initially introduced to each other in passing at a sex event in early 2020, and linked up for the first time just as Covid-19 started showing up in London. And then all the lockdowns happened, so we didn’t see each other again for a couple of years, by which time I’d actually moved out of London, but then I randomly bumped into her while I was down on a visit:
I shared more verbatim material from the end of our conversation, as some interesting nuggets came out as we chatted surrounding the (in)ability of people to communicate their sexual desires and boundaries. Paywalled: To gain access to this post upgrade to paid.
‘Y’ and I dated non-monogamously for around 18 months some years ago, when I was 28 and ‘Y’ was 47, after having matched on dating app Feeld. And we have remained firm friends ever since. We’re still in regular contact via WhatsApp and also have long, meandering phone calls, which I love. We actually met up to catch up in person for the first time since the pre-covid times, about a week before we had the online interview chat, and we spent a lot of time beaming at each other across the table. Cute, right.
The transcript and audio recording of a chat I had with ‘O’ who’s a bisexual/pansexual, Latino, cis man, who, at the time of interview in July 2022 was 45, living with a female nesting partner in Tucson, AZ, US, as two-thirds of an open triad, and also has a few other partners and additionally co-parents kids from a previous relationship.
Written answers that ‘O’ gave in response to my sexuality survey. Paywalled: To gain access to this post upgrade to paid.
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Animas Centre for Coaching – Purpose-centred coach training for individuals and organisations – is continuing its comprehensive relationship coaching programme across early 2025 to help deepen understanding of modern intimacy.
The in-depth programme covers the latest trends, from polyamory to sex positivity, all guided by renowned leaders in relationship psychology and coaching.
I’m running a session called ‘Guiding Clients in Navigating Open and Polyamorous Relationships’ tonight, Wednesday 29 January, 19:00–20:30 GMT
By the end of the session, you will:
Understand the key principles of open and polyamorous relationships and how they differ from monogamous structures.
Learn how to foster open communication and trust between partners in consensual non-monogamous relationships.
Gain strategies to help clients navigate common emotional challenges, including jealousy and boundary-setting.
Explore ways to support clients in ensuring emotional well-being while engaging in non-traditional relationship structures.
Broaden your professional toolkit to include skills for working with clients exploring diverse forms of relating.
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I’m Almaz Ohene, a Creative Copywriter, Freelance Journalist and Accidental Sexpert.
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