#41: Tips for navigating gynae challenges in new relationships
Female Health & Fertility magazine monthly column
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I write a monthly column called ‘Pleasure Principles with Almaz’, which appears in the digital magazine each month. I also publish it in full here for ‘She Dares To Say’ readers.
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Tips for navigating gynae challenges in new relationships
Dating and embarking on a new sexual journey can be exhilarating and nerve-wracking. However, when you’re dealing with a gynaecological condition that affects your body image and self-love, it can add an extra layer of complexity to these experiences. Navigating sex and dating with such conditions requires a unique blend of self-acceptance, communication, and empathy.
Understanding your gynae condition
First and foremost, knowledge is power. It’s essential to educate yourself about your gynaecological condition thoroughly. Whether it’s endometriosis, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), fibroids, or any other condition, understanding its symptoms, triggers, and management options can help you feel more in control.
Consulting with a healthcare provider is crucial. They can provide insights into how your condition might affect your intimate life and offer strategies for managing symptoms and pain.
Self-love and body image
Having a gynaecological condition can sometimes lead to changes in your body that may affect your self-esteem. It’s vital to remember that your worth is not defined by your appearance or health status. Self-love begins with accepting and embracing your body, flaws and all.
Practicing self-compassion, positive self-talk, and surrounding yourself with a supportive network of friends and partners can go a long way in boosting your self-esteem.
Open and honest communication
When dating someone new or entering a new phase in an existing relationship, it’s crucial to engage in open and honest communication about your gynaecological condition. This can be an intimidating conversation, but it’s essential for building trust and understanding.
Discuss your condition, its potential impact on intimacy, and any specific needs or boundaries you may have. A partner who cares about your well-being will appreciate your honesty and be willing to work together to ensure a fulfilling and comfortable sexual experience.
Exploring intimacy together
Navigating sex with a new partner when you have a gynaecological condition might require some adjustments. Experimentation, patience, and the willingness to try new things can lead to a fulfilling and satisfying intimate life. Prioritise pleasure, comfort, and emotional connection. Be open to exploring different forms of intimacy, such as sensual massages, cuddling, and non-penetrative activities to maintain a close bond with your partner.
Seeking suppoort
Remember that you don’t have to face these challenges alone. Seek support from friends, family, and support groups or online communities of people who share similar experiences. Sharing stories and advice and tips with others can provide comfort and valuable insights.
Navigating sex and dating with a gynaecological condition that affects your body image and self-love can be challenging, but by reminding yourself that your worth is not defined by your condition, and seeking the support you need you can create a meaningful and satisfying love life.
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And if you’d like to book me for an in-person event like a hen party or baby shower, or as a fun interlude at a sex ed/sensuality event, do get in touch via email. All workshop participants will receive a printable PDF companion workbook with tips and exercises to try out at home. Here’s a link to a previous mailout where I described the raucous fun we had at a hen party where I ran the Improving Intimacy workshop for a group of women:
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